MV9 Stop Trying To Lose Weight (And What To Do Instead)

Stop Trying To Lose Weight (And What To Do Instead)

Episode Length: 8 minutes | Template: "The Disruptor's Mindset"

Hey everyone, welcome back! I hope you're having a great week.

As we head into the weekend, I want to talk about something that might feel a little jarring at first, but stick with me, because I think it could shift your entire perspective.

Here it is: I want you to stop trying to lose weight.

Now, before you click away, just give me a minute. The ideas I'm about to share run counter to almost everything the diet industry has ever sold us. It’s the opposite of what you see scrolling through social media, and it challenges the common narrative about what success looks like.

But think about it for a second. The conventional approach to weight loss has a 95% failure rate. That’s a staggering number. When a system fails that consistently, maybe it’s the system that’s broken, not the people using it. Perhaps it’s time to explore a radically different path.

Today, I’m going to challenge you to aim for something else entirely. It’s a goal that ultimately leads to the results you’ve been searching for, but it gets you there through a much more empowering and sustainable journey.

Are you open to thinking differently?

MINDSET SHIFT

My core belief, after years of seeing what truly works, is this: The most powerful thing you can do for your health is to focus on gaining control.

I know, our entire world is set up to focus on the scale. Every program is built around that number. Every before-and-after photo celebrates the pounds that are gone. We've been taught to measure our success in dropped dress sizes.

The problem with chasing a number is that it ties your self-worth to something that naturally fluctuates.

It creates so much anxiety. A single high-salt meal or a hard workout can make the scale jump, and suddenly you feel like a failure. This can lead to a cycle of extreme behaviors when progress seems to stall, and it completely overlooks the real transformation happening inside your mind.

So, what does it actually feel like to gain control?

It’s the quiet confidence of feeling a craving and knowing you have a choice.

You can observe it without needing to immediately act on it. It’s learning to eat when you're genuinely hungry and stopping when you feel satisfied, not because a meal plan dictates the portion, but because you’re in tune with your own body's signals. It’s discovering how to navigate stress, boredom, or sadness without food being your only coping mechanism.

When you operate from this place, you make food choices with a sense of calm, not chaos. You begin to trust yourself around any food, even the ones that used to feel "off-limits" or trigger a binge. The whole concept of "starting over" on Monday disappears, because you never stopped taking care of yourself in the first place.

This is what genuine control feels like. And the beautiful part is that when you cultivate this skill, a healthy weight becomes a natural side effect, not a desperate, all-consuming goal.

Think about the people you know who seem to manage their health so effortlessly. They aren't obsessing over every calorie or living on the scale. They have simply developed a peaceful and intuitive relationship with food. They have control.

That is the foundation we’re building here. We’re not creating another temporary diet you’ll eventually rebel against. We’re not writing a new set of restrictive rules you’ll break and then feel guilty about. We are building an unshakeable confidence in your ability to nourish yourself well, no matter what life throws at you.

When your internal monologue shifts from "I have to lose weight" to "I am gaining control of my relationship with food," the pressure lifts. The anxiety fades. The shame dissolves. And ironically, the physical results you were chasing start to appear almost on their own.

WEEKEND APPLICATION

So, here’s how you can put this into practice this weekend. We’re going to focus entirely on gaining control through one simple action.

Let's put aside any thoughts about what the scale might say on Monday. Your only task is to practice making one conscious choice at each meal. This isn't about making a "perfect" or "low-calorie" choice. It's simply about making a conscious one.

Before you eat, just pause. Take a breath and ask yourself: "Am I choosing this from a place of calm or a place of chaos? Am I eating because I'm hungry, or am I trying to soothe a different feeling?"

That's the whole exercise. You’re not trying to eat less or avoid any specific foods. You are practicing the skill of making conscious decisions, moving away from old, unconscious habits.

Pay attention to how it feels. Notice the sensation of eating when you're truly hungry compared to when you're just bored or stressed. Observe the difference between stopping when you feel satisfied and pushing past that point until you’re uncomfortably full.

This weekend, you're not on a diet. You're not labeling your actions as "good" or "bad." You are a student of your own body, practicing the skill of conscious eating.

What you’ll likely discover is that you already have the tools you need. You don’t need more willpower or a perfect meal plan. You just need to create the space to make these conscious choices, one meal at a time.

So what now?

Listen, I get that this approach can feel a little scary. We’ve all been conditioned to believe that progress only happens through restriction and a laser focus on the number on the scale.

But what if the most successful people are the ones who shifted their focus from losing weight to gaining control? What if the freedom you're truly searching for is found when you let go of the scale and begin to trust yourself?

You are so much more capable than you give yourself credit for. You hold the wisdom to nourish your body well. You possess the strength to handle difficult emotions without using food as a crutch. You have everything required to build a peaceful, sustainable relationship with eating.

This weekend, give yourself permission to focus on gaining control. Embrace the power of conscious choice. Dedicate yourself to building skills that will serve you for a lifetime.

You’re not just changing your body; you're upgrading your entire relationship with yourself. And that, my friend, is where the most profound transformation always happens.

Go into this weekend feeling empowered, not restricted. You’ve got this. I’m cheering you on.

Have an amazing weekend, and we'll talk soon!

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